Are you tired of

Feeling like a victim to your husband’s porn use? 

Wondering if it’s possible to repair your marriage?

Feeling committed to your husband but confused about what his porn use means for you? 

Wondering what’s real and not real in your marriage? 

I'll show you how to

Heal from the emotional wounds that tend to come after finding out his past or present porn use. 

Know in your bones that his actions have NOTHING to do with you, your beauty, worth, and lovability.

Find strength and clarity for yourself, and your marriage.

Rise up, discover, and step into the energy of the incredible woman that you already are.

This can happen whether he’s stopping, stopped, or not stopping his behavior. 

Client breakthroughs

the latest

Ever feel duped in your marriage?  
  
What if isn’t always supposed to look this way. ✨  
  
Marriage isn’t supposed to be a partnership where you each bring 50% to the table.   
  
You can totally keep believing this, just ask yourself:  
  
Am I satisfied when I keep score of me vs. him?  
  
There were times where my 100% looked like 2000% to some.   
  
There were times where my perception of Danny’s 5% could have very well been his 5000%.  
  
We’ll just never know.   
  
What I do know, is that when I hit my rock bottom (which I now coin my pivot point),  
  
That’s when I turned inward. 👓  
  
That’s when I found MY power.💪🏻  
  
That’s when my resentment shifted to compassion and love.   
  
That’s when I set boundaries from a healthy loving space.  
  
That’s also when I realized there hadn’t been very many boundary violations.  
  
If you feel uncomfortable reading this, that’s ok.   
  
If you feel like you’re the only one pedaling in your marriage, I feel for you.   
  
Just know that no one is forcing you to pedal. 🤷🏼‍♀️  
  
You can stop pedaling, start pedaling, or switch bikes any time. 🚲  
  
And if you want expert insight into when it makes sense to stay on your bike or make a switch, I’m here for you.💕  
  
Xxx
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Do we go for runs with our laces untied? 

No.  

Can we? 

Yes.  

But why don’t we? 

Because that little time investment helps you  

✨ get from point A to B faster 
✨ get to your destination with more ease, less worry about tripping 
✨ less actual tripping 
✨ get to your destination with less overall mental energy expenditure.  

How does coaching and self-coaching relate, you ask?  

1. tap link in bio 
2. Tap podcast 
3. Listen to our latest episode and 
4. Tie those mental shoes of yours friends! 

Want more deets?  

Check out steps 1-4 above ⬆️ 

Save some time.  

Save lots of energy.  

Alleviate, dismantle, and reframe painful stories.  

All with that brain of yours.  

Xxx
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“How is this my life?” 😫😭 

I wish I knew exactly what I was thinking in this picture (it was taken almost 4 years ago).  

Problably some mix of “how is this my life, I don’t really want to be around this person right now who has hurt me so badly, I still can’t believe this is my reality. This isn’t fair. I have no one to talk to. I feel so alone.” 

Friend, you don’t have to feel alone anymore. 

And even though shame is part of our human experience, it doesn’t have to be ALL of our experience. 🙏🏻 

“What’s that you say?”👂🏽 

Listen hun, I’ve been there.  

I’ve felt shame and embarrassment thinking about the things my husband did—and why it’d be better if no one found out. 

I’ve also felt shame around “what would happen if everyone did find out about his behavior” too. 

It doesn’t feel good, and I felt it for too long. 

If this resonates with you, come to my webinar next Tuesday, July 28th at 1pm mountain time (tap “webinar” from link in bio).  

You’ll walk away with more knowledge and power over your shame, a very optional workbook, and you’ll feel lighter knowing you’re not in this alone.  

You’ll also have tools to handle shame as it comes up in the future, so that you don’t have to worry today about stuff that hasn’t even happened.  

So . . . ready to feel less shame in less than 60 minutes?  

Come hang.  
Xxx
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Recently, a colleague/friend of mine posted the most timely podcast episode.   
  
She talked about being in a funk and how she just let it be hard.   
  
I loved her words because I was just coming out of a funk of my own.   
  
For a large chunk of my life, when things got hard I would discount my pain, avoid it, or judge myself for even feeling it.   
  
That doesn’t make it go away though.   
  
Thanks to coaching that has changed.   
  
Simply opening myself up to the idea that part of my human experience is to struggle literally lessens the intensity of a lot of negative emotions that come up.   
  
It also keeps me more clear-headed so that I know when I can shift gears back into “easier.”   
  
Sometimes we glorify life being hard. 📢  
  
I don’t think its meant to always be that way.   
  
Maybe it’s more of a flow. A 50/50 flow.   
  
A flow that we have more control over with our mind than we know. 🧠  
  
So...is there anything you can think of do today to make things easier for you?   
  
Xxx
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If you know me, you know my love for water sounds.
If you can relate, listen for the sound of water streaming into the sea combined with quiet ocean waves. 🤯😍🇫🇷✨
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This. Sometimes saying no to others is saying YES to yourself.  ✨ 
  
Why do we people please?  🤷🏼‍♀️ 
  
How is it affecting your marriage and other parts of your life?  🤦🏼‍♀️ 
  
Click link in bio, then tap “podcast” to get some insight from me and @dannypoelmancoaching .  
  
This is something we have BOTH majorly struggled with at times in our lives, and changing our thoughts about it has changed EVERYTHING.   
  
Xxx
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