Ever feel unimportant & unseen?

Sometimes this happens because of familial or other cultural conditioning.

And sometimes it systematically progresses within the bounds of marriage.

I know you feel unseen, and it’s confusing.

In the eyes of the world he may come off as:
✔️Smart, Successful
✔️Eloquent, Articulate
✔️Devoted and religious
✔️Revered
✔️Funny

Then at home . . . it’s different.

He wants you to:
🖤play small
🖤look a certain way
🖤be more traditional
🖤acquiesce
🖤connect with him intimately on his terms

You’ve been to professionals, and even they seem to understand him and not you.

This aids in them giving him ‘homework’ and then looking to you to “make some changes,” all because you haven’t been able to formulate your confusion into words they understand.

Well my darling, I see you. I hear you.

You have felt unseen and unimportant—and this makes sense!

Also . . .

I am here to tell you that the opposite is true.

I am here to show you that the opposite is possible.

I am here to help you see yourself the way I see you, the way God sees you too!

Your happiness is a worthy endeavor.

Playing small used to keep you safe, didn’t it?

Being unseen may have (and continue to be your) been your M.O.

What about today?

Does this pattern still get you the life you want?

If you’re wanting more but don’t know how to get there, it’s time.

It’s time to see yourself and let yourself be seen by the world in your true power.

Want to know what this looks like?

Reach out (dm or via link in bio) and let’s talk next week! ...

Here’s a friendly reminder that 𝐲𝐨𝐮𝐫 𝐡𝐮𝐦𝐚𝐧𝐧𝐞𝐬𝐬 𝐜𝐨𝐦𝐞𝐬 𝐟𝐢𝐫𝐬𝐭.

Everything else is a distant second.  
 
So don’t worry about what a good mom “should have said” to her kids, 
 
How a good wife would have kept the peace, 
 
What a good neighbor would have done, 
 
Or how a “good coach” would have handled that situation.  

𝐖𝐞 𝐚𝐫𝐞 𝐡𝐮𝐦𝐚𝐧𝐬 𝐟𝐢𝐫𝐬𝐭.  
 
Humans, behaving like humans, and that’s ok.  
 
Xxx ...

My name is Lindsay.       
       
A BYU alumnus, active member of The Church of Jesus Christ of Latter Day Saints, & life coach.        
      
There was a period of time when my husband coped with porn & because of shame, lied to me about it.      
     
Eventually, he told me about it.      
       
While he isolated in self-shame, I withdrew in “self-blame shame.”      
       
Because of the taboo-ness of this subject, I isolated, bunkered in, and dissociated from my body because I COULD NOT HANDLE the pain and fear that swarmed around me.       
       
I can’t put into words the lowness, sheer terror, and powerlessness I experienced.  
    
Every time I go there, I get emotional.        
       
Thanks to my God above, who guided me to friends (who led me to coaching), I got out of my 2 year funk.        
       
I am here today because I chose to fight for my happiness. This came AFTER being nourished by safe friends and family members—until I could fully support myself.       
       
I was once that “one” who needed outside help.      
  
I got into this work because I’m on a mission to help any woman in a similar place get out of that dark hole.        
       
I am here for those “ones” who don’t feel seen or heard.        
       
I am here to put a stake in the ground for that “one” woman until she is ready to do the same for herself.       
      
I believe that every single woman has a right to feel free to live their life to their fullest.        
       
Because I know all too well the depths of my low points, I believe wholeheartedly that this right to live a life free from terror & isolation extends to everyone.       
       
Including all of my LGBTQIA+ friends and their respective families.        
       
Right now, you are the “ones” on my mind that I am standing for.       
     
I am a safe person for you. I will hold space for you. I will help you get your footing just as passionately as I do for all of the individual women I serve and love so deeply.        
     
Let’s support our loved ones as they’re finding their ground,       
  
Because anyone elevating themselves elevates everyone.

❤️🧡💛💚💙💜 ...

My mission is to help women like you: 
 
❤️Feel seen, heard, and loved right where you are. 
🧡Drop into your body and heal from past trauma that is affecting your current relationships today (especially the one with yourself). 
💛Realize how much power and potential you have.  
💚Use this knowledge to tether yourself to who you want to continue to become.  
💙Develop the courage to put a stake in the ground for your past, present, and future self.  
 
💜Every woman matters.💜 
 
🤍YOU, my friend, matter. 🤍 
 
This includes you hun, I don’t care how much you already “have,” or how much you’ve been blessed with. 
 
This is true regardless of anything you believe or have been taught about your role as a woman, wife, mother, daughter, etc.  
 
Regardless of your age, gender, sexual orientation, race, ethnicity, religion, and anything else.  
 
You have a human right to feel safe enough to step into your own in this life, right now.  
 
You have a human right to feel the freedom and liberation that comes with deep self-acceptance. 
 
This is available to you right now. 
 
Got questions? Reach out friend.  
 
I am here.  
 
❤️🧡💛💚💙💜 ...

Sometimes we think we know what our problem is, when we actually don’t.
 
Want to know what happens next?  
 
We start solving the wrong problems. 

In marriages where he’s looking at porn, it may feel like THAT is the ROOT of all the problems.

But . . . What if there is something else? What if we’re missing something?
 
A coach like me can help you discover and solve the RIGHT problems.  
 
Then . . . you can start getting clear on what you WANT. 
 
Sometimes we’re unclear about this too, so we try to get it in ways that don’t serve us.
 
Where do you get stuck when it comes to your marriage? 
 
DM me and let’s set up a time to chat.  
 
Xxx ...