Lots of people want to feel validated, but what does that mean? And what does that look like in marriage? Don’t expect your validation to all come from one person. (Have a few different sources for different subjects) The most important person to get validation from is yourself. You don’t have to validate anyone that you don’t want to. Be willing to recognize whether validation is the most helpful thing for you in that moment. When is validation useful? When is validation not useful? Even if other people validate and agree with you, you are still responsible for how you choose to think/feel/act. Validation is comfortable. While “being comforted” can be nice, comfort doesn’t always lead to growth. Safety + Discomfort -> Growth. Listen to the full episode HERE.

Lindsay and Danny Poelman are certified life coaches and are members of the Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-day Saints. Danny helps guys to stop looking at porn and make their real life and/or marriage what they want it to be. Lindsay helps women let go of the fantasy marriage that doesn’t exist and create the marriage of their dreams in real life.