You feel like maybe you shouldn't want more because you already have so much. Or because other people need it more. For you husbands, part of you wants porn. Part of you doesn’t. You want to not want porn. You’re more likely to “distract [yourself] with pleasure when [your] life is void of meaning.” Because “the chief desire of man is not pleasure but meaning.” -Viktor Frankl (Holocaust survivor/neurologist/psychiatrist)

So how do you intentionally bring meaning back into the picture?It starts with wanting. You now have permission to want more without rejecting your current self/circumstances/situation. You can love your current self/life AND want more. Simultaneously. Permission granted. You’re welcome! Also, this is more crucial than you realize to help you become the man you want to be. Where do you even start with this process? How do you know if it's even possible? (Because if it's not possible, is it even worth wanting?) Tune in to find out. 

Lindsay and Danny Poelman are certified life coaches and are members of the Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-day Saints. Danny helps guys to stop looking at porn and make their real life and/or marriage what they want it to be. Lindsay helps women let go of the fantasy marriage that doesn’t exist and create the marriage of their dreams in real life.

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