When you are a fish in water, you don’t even know you’re in water. Just because an abusive behavior exists does not make someone an abuser. You can honor your own feelings AND increase your awareness WITHOUT putting your marriage in jeopardy (if you choose). There are disempowering and empowering ways to approach the subject of abuse. You experience both ways while you’re healing/growing. Your process is unique to you. Developing your Self-Concept is key, for quitting porn and for up-leveling your marriage. Setting boundaries can become easy and full of love. Up-leveling your marriage experience can be uncomfortable, but it’s so worth it. You might not even know yet how good it could be for you. If you can imagine it, and desire it, it’s possible.

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Lindsay and Danny Poelman are certified life coaches and are members of the Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-day Saints. Danny helps guys to stop looking at pornography (and be happy about it) and make their real life and/or marriage what they want it to be. Lindsay helps women let go of the fantasy marriage that doesn’t exist and create the marriage of their dreams in real life.